“ Originally Posted by gadget945 
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Sweetie - I'm gonna tell you like I have told every other good hearted, decent, hard working, considerate man I have ever talked to about looking for a mate. QUIT LOOKING. You are trying so hard to find someone that you are willing to make them first in your life, and putting their wants and needs above your own and it typically winds up that those skanks will take advantage of it. You cannot put someone ahead of yourself. I know, they are important to you and you want them to love you; but you cannot make someone happy at your expense. wcked has the right idea, kind of. Take her out, loosen her up and have a serious conversation about what you are looking for. Tell her that you like her and want to be with her but that relationships are PARTNERSHIPS. You are a nice guy and will treat her right, but you expect the same from her. If she just kind of laughs and giggles and flips her hair and says, "oh you are just so sweet" --- RUN!
Most women don't know what they want. A lot of them buy into the stereotype of "take care of me, but I don't have to do anything because that is your job" Those are the ones that are most sneaky by the way. They will tell you whatever you want to hear, and will take everything they can and never give anything back.
Seriously, if you quit looking, and wait for the right time in your life, then things will get better. I understand not wanting to be alone. It's nice to have someone at home who will worry when you are late, to talk to when you can't sleep, will bring you chicken soup when you are sick. All of that is not worth it if you cannot trust them.
When you meet someone that you are interested in, check out their myspace, facebook, twitter, all of it. You're a junkie, dude, use the technology. You can tell a lot about a person by what they say on their myspace or facebook. How they interact with people, what kind of pics they post, all of that makes a difference.
Check them out, talk to them, meet their friends, but give it some time. Yes, there is such a thing as love at first sight, but it is a very hard to find kind of thing. If you want to talk more, let me know, they don't call me "momma" around here for nothing.
Take care sweetie, it will all work out, it just might take some time. Take care of yourself, your family, and your general situation. Then worry about finding someone to share it with.
Im most deff calling you momma :) lol you put a smile on my face and a word of wisdom in my head about things and i thank you for that. I am so glad to be a part of "second family" that when i need a shoulder to lean on i kno i can do just that. And i will take every word that you'll have said and imply it to my life when i get back on my feet and get going again. Thanks Dash and wcked and THANK YOU MOM! :)